All of us interact with difficult people from time to time. Rather than have a dialog, difficult people make demands. Rather than objectively analyze a situation, difficult people subjectively render opinions as if they were fact. They often put the needs of the few ahead of the needs of the many.
How can you succeed when dealing with difficult people?
Should you challenge their world view and hope that yelling at them will work? Nope. Active listening is the answer.
When an unreasonable person asserts an opinion that I know not to be true, I do not argue with them. Instead I ask them to express their point of view more fully. I then replay back to them what I heard:
“I’ve heard you describe the functionality you desire. The most important features are A and B, followed by C. In the future you’d like D and E, but it’s too early to provide those design details. It seems that a 2015 go live of A and B will be very helpful to you. In 2016, adding C would really help”.
